Anonymous I wanted to do something to still honor my husband, but be open to a new relationship and not scare others off. But as it is, I still wear rings on my left ring finger. And, I feel true to our love and commitment wearing the ring daily. I open it on occasion and smile in gratitude for the shared life represented by these rings. However, if you have multiple children, select either the first born or the one you think will appreciate the sentimental value of it the most. I wore our wedding rings for about 5 months and then they became who I was and I didn't like that. When does the hole in my heart start to mend? Most people who have always called you Mrs.
That just seems too real to deal with. I never knew what love was until she married me. Now I just look forward to the day when I can join him. Now when I look at it, I am planning to think of all the wonderful times we had together, not the years of illness. I feel lost and thought my rings would comfort me but sadly they do not.
So I went to the jewller and bought a new ring for my left hand. Wearing them for your lifetime is fine but if you choose not to there should be no guilt. Doing what I usually do, I started with some research. Not knowing what Widow's Mite is, I looked it up and found this explanation on Wikipedia I thought you all might really enjoy: The Lesson of the widow's mite is presented in the Synoptic Gospels Mark 12:41-44, Luke 21:1-4 , in which Jesus is teaching at the Temple in Jerusalem. The rings symbolize so much and it is still hard for me to move my ring. I loved our bands — they were sooo pretty.
The gold band will not come of of my finger and I will continue to wear both. That was almost 5 blissful years ago. I cleaned them and put them in my jewelry box. I did not change the setting because it is so beautiful the way it is. My choice was to continue to wear my rings, but on my right hand.
This was a second marriage for both of us, and a blended family. Anonymous These are my thoughts. I have four daughters ages 5-17 and sometimes when we are out complete strangers comment on how tough it must be for my husband to live with all these females, etc. I have learned how to embrace the cloud remember my loved one and then let the cloud float away again. Take care of yourself because you matter. It doesn't mean you'll ever forget them or never loved them.
He had been very ill for 40 of those years and he was was talking about being with the Lord that last year. My husband will wear his ring for eternity and, at least for now, so will I. I wore mine for about 3 months, only because it's heavy and non-practical everyday wear. The first time I noticed it was when, a few months after my husband died, a plumber looked at my finger and then asked if my husband was handy. I cry myself to sleep every night.
If I had died first my Husband would not have remarried they just don't in his family. It never occurred to me to let the ring go with him, since it was the one tangible piece of him left to me. Since his death was unexpected I was in the denial zone for a while, I left everything as is. He has been a member of the Kiwanis Club of Northside Naples since 1995 where he has served as the newsletter editor, a distinguished Secretary, and Past President. I opened the safety pin and looked at her engagement ring; the memories flood back to nine years before. Thank you all for a wonderful site. I just wanted to add to Anonymous Nov 1, 2014.
It has taken me awhile to adjust to being single. I waffled and asked the man from the funeral home what he thought. They were all a part of the initial surprise. Everyday, I would look at it and remember how much I had been loved, and how much I had loved him. I would rather have something with real gold--I don't guess they necessarily have to be real stones--but I do want gold. Our relationship will never change — I will always love him, he will always love me.
If you can't help it, you probably need to take a little more time before you begin dating again. I am 33 years old and I am often asked if I will remarry. I do still wear the eternity ring my last husband gave me. I feel what you are are feeling. You don't say why you are interested in this - are you perhaps interested in forming a relationship with a widower? I look at it everyday and it reminds me of how lucky I was to have him for 35 years. It is not that easy but with God I have come that long way under his caring and loving hands. August 22, 2017 I recognise so much of what others say on this page, even though my situation is slightly different.
As far as my experience goes, I never wore a wedding ring on my fingers when I started dating. We were best friends for 10 years before we left our respective spouses to be with each other 22 years ago. Radiation and chemo just made it worse. By the way, two years is not a long time. I had surgery the other day was told take off rings as i did my wedding band broke. All of our children lived with us. After only seven months it isn't surprising you don't want to remove yours.