The question - given the liberated times we live in now — is why? Men dont need to love the woman they are having sex with, it makes it better but not necessary. Men are being made fun of for their sexual drive. It would be so much easier than figuring out the opposite sex. It is celebrated in Solomon's Song. His answer is your the love of my life? The Bible pretty much says that married folks should be having sex and lots of it. If I had to give a reason it would probably be that over the years our verbal communication has seriously broken down. She finally could stop feeling anxious about sex.
Ben August 16, 2016 at 12:09 am After reading these comments, I realise I can relate to so many. I thought she was nuts to be prescribing a drug for our problems. The number of times a couple has sex is determined by the spouse with the lower sex drive…normally the woman. This has been an ongoing problem between my husband and I. I was single, many nights women would take me to their car and engage in oral, before I was sure of their names.
For the last 5 years I really could not care less about sex. Done well, sex can be incredibly satisfying, both physically and emotionally. This has been an ongoing problem between my husband and I. Whenever we make love, my wife seems to enjoy it as much as I do. Do I really want my husband to go somewhere else? How different would our marriages be if we really gave our husbands our physical attention, not out of obligation, but out of a desire to want to have the best marriage we can? As the years went by I let our daily routine of life slowly take over and I became … Read more » Alan — There are three love systems involved in romantic love. Find out how you can make sure our emails get to your inbox.
So, I need to explain something to you that I've already explained and then take care of a problem I'm already taking care of. Some of them might not have anything to do with you, but some of them sure do. She has told me she feels bad that we have a sex less mariage. Were they really as close as everyone else viewed them to be? She has lots of lovely orgasms and seems to enjoy herself. Is it too much to ask of her to initiate once in a awhile? In fact, I have found Viagra is very dangerous. I am not going to bore you with the crock pot vs. Tell her what she, as a person, means to you.
Attention He Needs: making him a priority, listening to him, being intimate with him mentally and physically. If you feel like your marriage is struggling, or even failing, there is hope. I have tried talking to her about the lack of intimacy, but she goes into her shell and gets the hump that I brought it up. If the low desire partner initiates with the high desire partner, then this often sparks something better by bringing them closer. If we have to prep her to get her in the mood, then they have to reciprocate, and get us in the mood. I can remember when we were dating it was sex every day and then on our honeymoon it slowed way down but I thought that was normal because she was pregnant. I want to do this in order to drive home a point.
Allay her fears by showing her that you understand where she's coming from and that you're willing to be patient and safe for her to try something so new and different for her. So starting today I will no longer try to initiate or even flirt with her. This could be how she lost her virginity. I respectfully, but strongly disagree. Maybe their mutual need is only once a week. When the children are grown and gone, I will kill myself. Denigrating another … Read more » All i have to say is that this is why men cheat.
So, what are your ideas on how to broach this topic with him again? I know there are men out there who have a hard time with that. Both of those options are below! So all I said was ok, I will take that as a no. I for one, am absolutely sick and tired of the excuses, stories, rejection, just going through the motions, and all the rest of it. Mean what you say, rather than just saying it without emotion or authenticity. Actually, its not crazy that I want to be intimate with her.
If I said this to my husband he would say, if u initiate sex more then I will meet your emotional needs. I finally realized in my own marriage that one of my functions, my most important duty, was to do my best to help my husband to be happy. I just wish 1 time she would ask me, male 54 by the way, to ask me for some. When he barks should I put a muzzle on him? There is your answer right there! We'd advise you to have a listen with your wife. We are great friends but not husband and wife. You should be better off with each other than you would be on your own or with someone else.
Hi lisa, I truly understand what you say in this post, thank you. My plan for tonight is to initiate sex with my husband and to do so more consistently. Things what 26 yrs have come too. A couple of nights ago we were interrupted by our child and she told me that she was hurting, so I told her we could stop. In a lot of ways, the saying nice guys finish last is a very very true statement. .