A person just starting out or a guy in his 30s and 40s? Fortunately my kids have come to love my old music both Bach and Beatles. His answer was frankly illuminating. His more youthful female companion may be more sexually attractive to him — making him feel younger in the process — and she probably doesn't call him out on his issues like an older woman might. The study of Finnish adults found that many heterosexual men were, in fact, interested in women substantially younger than they were. As opposed to men, who are of course focused on level of attractiveness and fertility, when women get more financially independent and confident in themselves, their focus changes from the hottest hunk in the hood, to the guy who can provide material resources, and is mature enough to be in a relationship. While younger women may catch our eye, not all of us are trying to recapture our youth.
If you keep dating younger men, you are clearly looking for certain characteristics that only they have which might entail all of the above. At some point, an and may have neglected his family in the process. Even I'm getting sick of the 'I'm old enough to be your mother' line, so I asked why on earth he would want to go out with a woman 18 years older. These were prolonged, leering, predatory stares. I asked the question, why are younger women attracted to older men? These gestures are sweet and caring and sets the men apart from the boys.
What I am looking for in a partner, is the whole deal. Men run for the hills - straight into the arms of a Maggie May the older woman immortalised by Rod Stewart in the 1971 song, long before any of these young bucks were even born. It turns out, from my unscientific research, that it's not so much them opting for older women as opting out of dating younger ones. Similarly, younger women are more caught up in pointless and irrelevant experiences. For example, an older guy has a great house, really nice condo, admirable career going, and has money saved or invested.
A friend and I started and ran a speed dating company for several years. Being in committed relationship, marriage or otherwise, comes to mind. Lots of baggage in many single 30ish+ women. I looked for maturity, a semi father figure perhaps. By their 40s, women are most attracted to men who are two to eight years younger than they are.
I also have always tended to like, meaning swxually to attracted, women closer to my age say within 5 years give or take, the window was a little narrower in my youth. He knows exactly how to touch you, how long to touch you, when to turn you, and even stop an orgasm just to keep going. Specifically, showing him the kind of man he is and aspires to be. Some also enjoy the jealous looks of older men when out with a younger guy and some even thrive on the disapproving looks of those who frown upon the age gap. So the ability to communicate, transparency and straightforwardness are the game changers.
They know what they want, and they know how to get it. On the other hand, young adult men are more focused on the need for significance. As a young man it was frustrating! No man enjoys getting nagged at for anything. So, if a woman values stability and financial resources over and above other aspects of attraction, an older guy can be very appealing for that reason alone. A key quality of an older woman is that she also learned how to cook. Alternatively, tag along with a friend the next time their office has a company picnic or function -- this is a great way to meet somebody who you know is responsible enough to hold down a career and who you can 'check out' with an acquainted friend before you agree to a date. Because a woman older than 30 will have had more experiences in life, she is more grounded and realistic about life.
They are in no hurry to get a ring on their finger or settle down. Simultaneously, an older woman is tired of putting herself second after her children and husband. Given that older women are more likely to have had more life experiences that enable them to have vast knowledge and a deeper understanding of world events. But not older women, although they may enjoy shopping just like the next girl, they are focused on the larger scale of things. And the vast majority say sex is more fun as they get older because there is less pressure. They focus their energy on improving their lives and the lives of others. Then Husband married a woman five years younger than him.
Thus, leading a man to maturer levels. Would have been in my twenties, before marriage. I like shared experiences, I am older than my wife but we are close enough in age to have similar cultural experiences. Secondly, I believe age brings about a certain decisiveness in you. On the contrary, women in their twenties are too caught up in drama and manipulative behaviour. He is free to hang with his buddies and go out on the weekends without having to worry about getting chewed out. Men can theoretically have children at any age, while women, through menopause, are limited to a certain number of years.