They show you who's safe and who's not. To disappear is to leave secretly and without explanation. I was out of my mind, but though maybe he just needed some space. And, what you said about them wanting to make us one of them is true. After a relationship of almost a year, he broke up with me after a very nice holiday.
Runnergirl, my husband and I have always been close and this has actually brought us closer. My emtiins were involved so I still wanted to remain in the relationship even after the ugly truth came out! We were suppose to met up that night and he poofed for a night. They have a 13 year old daughter. It's by being your true self, by being who you are that these men know this about you, they see you, they see this! Decent, nice people do not behave like this. I'm sorry my post is not very encouraging but, for sure, Sophie, being angry towards him is a good first step to getting back to your life. Can you pull your own in close to you and allow yourself to slowly get to know someone before you give your beautiful heart and soul and body away again? When I met Craig, I was dating other guys too.
After he had been gone for two weeks and we still hadn't had the conversation, I went ahead and made the call because I had no other choice. When you make that kind of commitment to yourself to see you through, to stay with you, to never leave you, you will reap the beautiful bounty of your journey. Upon entering my house he strolled to my bedroom, I asked what did he think he could just walk back into my life without explanation, he said he didn't want to argue and hugged me, I asked him what was he doing here what did he want. Do what you have to get through this, we are women and we play things over and over again. After answering so many questions, you really start to realize how all of the relationships end up the same way. Haven't heard from him in months. He even told me so during the holiday.
And now my final dilemma, he followed up with a text letting me know he would be in my town mid-October and what did I think of having a coffee together. After dating for six weeks, she suddenly vanished. Lots of guys function on a blueprint for their lives. You don't see it now, but I promise you that the coward you love or loved did you a huge favor by disappearing from your life. You get to move on and find something better in life. You had a great connection; the chemistry was there and you enjoyed each other's company. I had agreed to go with him to a festival, I spent a couple thousand dollars on airfare etc.
And one hour later he deleted me from his contact list. And yes, sometimes, I still think about what a rush it was to hear from him. He didn't have to guts to give me the truth and the closure I needed to move forward! When we first met she told me she had high walls and knew it was a problem and was working on it. He was caught off guard with the fact that I was a stronger person with my same good heart who received his lackluster attempts and presence with indifference - love this description! Reading these posts is really helping alot. There was no commitment, but you thought your continuous contact for the past couple months would have led to a mutual respect for each other.
And sorry in advance for such a long comment to come! So, then they mock us and exaggerate what we said, or pick on us for little things like Melanie mentioned, so they feel one-up again. He talked about marrying me and a future together. Have been crying for days but after reading everything here, I realized I wasn't at fault buh he is. Here is one thing…Telling someone you are no longer interested is like a punch in the face; it is very painful but guess what! Unavailable saying he really, really wanted to stay friends. I see now that I could have terminated the relationship cleanly.
How can someone go from hot to cold like that in an instant? My Guy befriended me after a 7 yr divorce. But now you know you need to, and next time, you will. If we can only remember this, that this isn't about us - it isn't a rejection of you! So I was wondering even if he was fine why ignore these types of messages from me? The life I am living is not normal for a person of my age. We spent all weekend together and used to see each other 1 night in the week as well. I became stronger and more confident than I'd been in years and I was feeling great. When you see the truth, it sets you free. In a public place he flew into me in what I firmly believe was a narcissistic rage after a very difficult time of loss for me.
It;s the only thing these assclowns understand! Totally inappropriate and I told him the friend this. We believe because we're believers, we're lovers, we're the ones who wear our hearts on our sleeves. It is interesting getting a chance to focus on me and what I want to do. Jo, There is a caring and nurturing, and then there is co-dependency. I never knew love was like this. This is what so many of can't understand because we don't think like this, yet the reality is so clear. But I am also wondering if I have done a disappearing act as much as he has, because I haven't contacted him.
I kick started my life going to fitness classes, planning nice holidays and above all connecting with the calm that nature offers us. I pretty much cannot believe why this happened to me and I don't know why but I need to understand. On the relationship itself, there was one big red flag which I ignored and that is the famous ex. Many cultures apart from the West are very loving, and have no games, no pride and are very direct with their love and their needs, their communication is open hence why their relationships are authentic and real and long lasting. No matter what you did or said, it was unfair to leave you this way.